Posted by: sistermom1 | July 28, 2013

Our Family Summer

Just returned from a week in Long Island with my sister-in-law and her family.Now if you did not know better, you may assume that this would be a difficult way for us to spend a vacation. In another family, maybe so. For us, it was a wonderfully enjoyable time — a time when I could spend time with my husband, and our children could strengthen their relationships with their well-loved aunt and uncle.

What a great time — although we did not run into the Long Island Medium (one of my favorite TV shows!) it was still fabulous. Good food, lovely weather, long walk/rides and great talks — even including a trip to Broadway to see The Motown Story. Being away from the everyday challenges of my husband’s work, our son’s college applications, our daughter getting ready to be a high school freshman, and me navigating twice-weekly physical therapy sessions was so relaxing. Although being in a hotel was not as easy as I had hoped (nothing like a good massage and a standing frame!), it was great having time to read, being served in the lovely restaurant, and having more time to chant, tap, write, and research subjects on the web.

My health challenges notwithstanding, this is a special summer for our family, and I do plan to enjoy and celebrate it all. Part of my learning from this detour has reminded me of a passage from Nichiren Daishonin’s writings — “Suffer what there is to suffer, enjoy what there is to enjoy. Regard both suffering and joy as facts of life and continue chanting Nam Myoho Renge Kyo no matter what happens…Then you will receive boundless joy from the Law.”

I have been reminded to accept my life as it is — not wasting time wishing it was different. My daily reality is not what I had ever planned for. I did not have a vision of needing a wheelchair, ramps, a special hospital bed, special seats in the car, walkers or a standing frame. Now these things are part of my life every day, and there are times that I feel completely overwhelmed by them. Other days, not so much. This vacation gave me the room to take a slow, deep breath, and be exactly who I am at this point of my journey with no apologies — no pressure, and lots of extra support for my entire family. Thanks so much J, N and even Max!

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